Over coffee

In between ward round and clinic this morning, I had a nice chat with my partner (as in pal during rotation, not the other kind) over coffee.
Mostly we talked about marriage.. =P

Started off, of course, with gossips.. That's what girls do over coffee, not talking about what's going on in Haiti or the political instabilities in this country, church burnings by good-for-nothings in that country etc. (BUT we did talk about the implementation of HPV vaccine among 12 yo in Ireland though..) *wink* -> Note: possible Paeds (or O&G) essay question in April, people!!

Then she was asking me about why Malaysian (esp Malays) in our class, who are either: "her baby is almost 1 year old", "she just had a baby", "just married", "they're getting married" or "what?? she's married???!!" *LOL*

She then asked me the inevitable question, "when are you getting married?", so I asked her back the same question.. =P. She made a good plan of getting married around 26/27, and have a child at around 29/30. You're still young, darling.. You can afford to wait that long.. As for me, I am almost a quarter of a century!! And grey hair just keep on popping up.. (NO PRESSURE, MR BOYFIE) =P

She said something, and I share the same opinion, regarding having a non-medical boyfriends or future husbands.. Isn't it boring to come home after a long day at the hospital and to be talking about medicine even at home?? And isn't it sad when you come home post-call and your husband isn't there because he is on-call?
Yet again, there are always pros and cons on everything.

This brings on other issues: about men and their ego & inferiority complex and what not. In this part of the world, those issues are like so outdated. No one cares about what you work as, or how much you earn. The mentality is different at the other end of the world. All the "aunties" would start talking behind your back and a husband would even divorce his wife just because she earns more than him (and they were in the same field, for goodness sake!). I quote another friend, "I WOULD EASILY SCORE MYSELF A DOCTOR IF I CARE ABOUT MONEY, STATUS AND WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WOULD THINK OR SAY ABOUT IT." Well said and totally agreed with ya! I guess it's up to the guys now to accept whatever coming his way. Probably it's easier for girls to accept it than guys, and it is easier for us to say 'ignore it' because sometimes we just can't understand what you are going through as God made us feel and look at things differently.

Interestingly enough, my dad and I were talking about the same topic last weekend! (about getting married and stuff). It was kinda embarrassing talking about this with my father, but at the same time I am relieved that I can talk about it with him. And he even said, I can talk to him about everything and anything, he's always there for me. (Awwwww.. isn't he the greatest!!). And he even started to ask around about the price range of venues, catering, wedding planner and all!!!! (Errrkkk...)


I LOVE U, DADDY~!!!

Okay, enough talking about marriage and stuff.. it's started getting on my nerves!!